Question involving dating and attraction

[Neonie]

I'm totally reading The Anatomy of Love by Dr. Helen Fischer. I recommend it because her writing, though quite academic, is not boring and dry.
There are SO many factors in why people choose who they choose, why relationships don't work, why they do work.
Some fun facts!

- Couples that marry later are more prone to stay together
- Couples who have more kids tend to stay together because
- The human female has a vagina placed for face-to-face sex. Gorillas, chimps, etc do not have face-to-face sex. This could be because intimacy with sex means mated humans will stay together longer (I think bonobos have face-to-face sex, though)
- There is a 7 year itch, but the time varies, when the "high" you get from your relationship dwindles. This is why love isn't really important, but like is. If you have more in common with your partner you will stay together with them even after that "high" is gone and then another chemical is released in your brain that gives you a feeling of contentment with them
- Polygamy (polygyny) is actually practiced in 70% of the world, so don't diss it. And just because some cultures practice polygyny doesn't mean women are inferior in that culture

Anyway, there are never any clear answers on it and nothing is ever concrete.

7 year itch is interesting. I consider Polygamy part of my "whatever floats your boat" policy, if something can keep someone happy, contented, and they don't force their views on others, then there's no reason to diss anyone for it.

I don't think I'd likely be the type of break up a relationship unless I found out the bitch was cheating on me, but because of certain happenings threw-ought my life I'd never be the one to cheat and have trust issues (Not able to trust people I sometimes consider friends/more, thinking their always talking behind my back/ect.

[Coppanuva]

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[quote author=zaneyard link=topic=3719.msg117118#msg117118 date=1255054546]
any introductory level psychology course will tell you this, or wikipedia.
if your interested in why SOCIETY is attracted it's members, your going to wanna look at the psych side of things
if your interested in what a particular member of this group has to say, maybe it's best to address them specifically

Actually, it goes a lot deeper than that. I mean you can argue that it's a personality thing, except we also say there's only 16 different types. I'm really kinda curious what makes people attracted to one specific person, though there are other people who behave in an identical manner.
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i understand you are trying to make discussion on a discussion board. I just like ... helping :S

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Yeah, and I appreciate it. I wasn't trying to be mean in that comment (sorry if I came across that way).

And that sounds interesting Crystal, only books on the subject I've read were by Robert Sternberg, because he's awesome.

[zaneyard]

Yeah, and I appreciate it. I wasn't trying to be mean in that comment (sorry if I came across that way).

you didn't come off as mean, don't worry

[Benito Mussolini]

She better not listen to shitty music. That turns me off instantly.

[Surf314]

She better not listen to shitty music. That turns me off instantly.

Aww now I have to go clean out my iPod.

[Versus]

She better not listen to shitty music. That turns me off instantly.

I LOVE LINKIN PARK TOO

[Benito Mussolini]

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She better not listen to shitty music. That turns me off instantly.

I LOVE LINKIN PARK TOO
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<3

[Versus]

<3 <3 <3

[rumsfald]

James, Tony, some questions:

What you feel when you are attracted to each other?

Why each other and not anybody else instead?

Your list of criteria that the other one has that makes them a must to date (include richness/frenchness if that is a factor, as well as what a burger you have).

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[Duck, Duck, Goose]

Uh... let's see...

Out of all the girls I've liked, the biggest thing for me is they have to like hockey, no exceptions. Being from 2 countries where hockey is practically the national sport in both, there's no way I could live with a girl who doesn't know what offside is, or how to hold a hockey stick. I suppose this would be my cultural background.

I've only liked white girls, dunno why, don't really care why either. As for looks, I usually like the cuter girls. They also happen to be the ones that are generally nicer to everyone too.

As for feeling? Meh, depends. I'll daydream sometimes, nothing much, and I'll typically be in a better mood around them. And usually whenever I like one girl, I tend to not notice or care that much about others.

That is all.

[Versus]

James, Tony, some questions:

What you feel when you are attracted to each other?

Why each other and not anybody else instead?

Your list of criteria that the other one has that makes them a must to date (include richness/frenchness if that is a factor, as well as what a burger you have).

1. Love. Also boners.

2. We're not exclusive. Ryan, Tim, etc. are also welcome.

3. Mmm, Whataburger.

[Benito Mussolini]

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James, Tony, some questions:

What you feel when you are attracted to each other?

Why each other and not anybody else instead?

Your list of criteria that the other one has that makes them a must to date (include richness/frenchness if that is a factor, as well as what a burger you have).

1. Love. Also boners.

2. We're not exclusive. Ryan, Tim, etc. are also welcome.

3. Mmm, Whataburger.
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Yeah, boners are what I feel.

And it's not like I date Versus only for his money  :.

[Versus]

I'll use more lube next time, Tony.