Dr. Zaius Uninstalling Posts: 2,528 Joined: May 2010 |
03-08-2012, 12:13 AM
This thread is now spiderguy.
enjoy your evening 'Meditation is supposedly the only way to Enlightenment because the only way to find this truth is through inner reflection - therefore, what you are finding to be the truth in your personal journey should ultimately be exactly what I find to be the truth, though all of our journeys are unique.'
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Sogo Didzo of Crafting Posts: 1,025 Joined: Dec 2010 |
03-08-2012, 12:39 AM
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[SiN] Merc BRB, Posting Posts: 2,304 Joined: Aug 2010 |
03-08-2012, 03:24 PM
(03-08-2012, 12:13 AM)Dr. Zaius link Wrote: This thread is now spiderguy. I'm ok with this. HULKMANIA'S RUNNIN' WILD, BROTHER! |
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Greatbacon The Most Delicious of All Meats Posts: 1,980 Joined: Mar 2008 |
03-08-2012, 03:31 PM
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Stein BRB, Posting Posts: 936 Joined: Jun 2008 |
03-10-2012, 01:40 AM
This is win.
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matter11 BRB, Posting Posts: 1,968 Joined: Jan 2011 |
03-10-2012, 01:52 AM
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Dr. Zaius Uninstalling Posts: 2,528 Joined: May 2010 |
03-10-2012, 04:15 AM
'Meditation is supposedly the only way to Enlightenment because the only way to find this truth is through inner reflection - therefore, what you are finding to be the truth in your personal journey should ultimately be exactly what I find to be the truth, though all of our journeys are unique.'
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Live-Free-Or-Pie 2 Beers Is All I Need Posts: 791 Joined: Mar 2009 |
03-10-2012, 10:02 AM
Cancer treatment for my dad is not taking, he has an undefined amount a time left (we know it's not urgent, they're saying 3 weeks - 3 months, he's going on heavy chemo until the end, DNR is set)
I am an emotional fucking wreck right now and I need to figure out how to tie it all together and say goodbye. Current plan: Sit down with case of Cider and have him tell his life story. Anyone have other suggestions? |
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rumsfald Guest |
03-10-2012, 10:10 AM
(03-10-2012, 10:02 AM)Live-Free-Or-Pie link Wrote: Cancer treatment for my dad is not taking, he has an undefined amount a time left (we know it's not urgent, they're saying 3 weeks - 3 months, he's going on heavy chemo until the end, DNR is set) Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. |
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CaffeinePowered Mad Hatter Posts: 12,998 Joined: Mar 2008 |
03-10-2012, 11:12 AM
(03-10-2012, 10:10 AM)rumsfald link Wrote: [quote author=Live-Free-Or-Pie link=topic=3709.msg240723#msg240723 date=1331391748] Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. [/quote] I second this, you could also take audio only if tape is too difficult  Sig by Joel |
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A. Crow Surprise Whopper Posts: 4,091 Joined: May 2008 |
03-10-2012, 11:14 AM
(03-10-2012, 11:12 AM)Caffeine link Wrote: [quote author=rumsfald link=topic=3709.msg240725#msg240725 date=1331392257] Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. [/quote] I second this, you could also take audio only if tape is too difficult [/quote] That's actually a really good plan. |
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Live-Free-Or-Pie 2 Beers Is All I Need Posts: 791 Joined: Mar 2009 |
03-10-2012, 11:57 AM
(03-10-2012, 11:14 AM)LT Crow link Wrote: [quote author=Caffeine link=topic=3709.msg240727#msg240727 date=1331395969] Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. [/quote] I second this, you could also take audio only if tape is too difficult [/quote] That's actually a really good plan. [/quote] Plans are underway and I've put a line out on reddit, please upboat if you reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/commen...er_soon_i/ |
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[SiN] Merc BRB, Posting Posts: 2,304 Joined: Aug 2010 |
03-10-2012, 12:34 PM
(03-10-2012, 11:57 AM)Live-Free-Or-Pie link Wrote: [quote author=LT Crow link=topic=3709.msg240728#msg240728 date=1331396056] Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. [/quote] I second this, you could also take audio only if tape is too difficult [/quote] That's actually a really good plan. [/quote] Plans are underway and I've put a line out on reddit, please upboat if you reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/commen...er_soon_i/ [/quote] I'll be praying for you Pie. Lost my dad to cancer too, so I know how your feeling. I was 14 when he passed, and I didn't/was too stupid to get the kind of closure you're going for, so I hope the documentary helps with the process. Just try to smile when you talk to him. If he's anything like my dad was, that's what hurt him the worst, when he saw you were hurting. HULKMANIA'S RUNNIN' WILD, BROTHER! |
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rumsfald Guest |
03-10-2012, 01:48 PM
(03-10-2012, 11:57 AM)Live-Free-Or-Pie link Wrote: Plans are underway and I've put a line out on reddit, please upboat if you reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/commen...er_soon_i/ Sorry, I don't do the reddit, so I will add more tips here. - I'd suggest having the camera on a tripod and two of you in-frame. Like sitting on a couch or in living room chairs or something. The goal is to have a casual, comfortable conversation. Not a news interview. Do a test run of like 2 mins recording to make sure that you are both in frame and the audio is coming out clear, and after that press record and commence drinking cider and shooting the breeze. In 20 years, your family will treasure every bit of seeing you as young pie doing your part in the conversation as your father. This will be focused on his life, but it's about the both of you. - having stock questions will help you get ideas and make sure you cover lots of ground. Here's some suggestions: http://ezinearticles.com/?Write-Your-Fam...&id=800937 But don't feel like you have to conduct a survey and get them all. Ask the ones that make sense to start a conversation. Feel free to follow any side-stories or tangents - the questions should really just be a jumping off point to get your father to tell interesting stories. Once he starts on a yarn, get out of the way and enjoy it. - props can be useful - this page (http://lifebio.blogspot.com/2012/02/how-...ts-or.html) suggests going through old photo albums together and have him narrate / talk about each picture. That might be fun. - be mindful of time - talking intensely for an hour can tire out just about anyone. give youself the permission and space to go at an easy pace and take breaks. Best of wishes to you on this Pie. Hope you and your family have a ball making this video. I'm serious - I hope this brings some fun and light times to you all in a very dark hour. - also, the cider makes the plan. |
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Squishy3 Closet Furry Posts: 5,757 Joined: May 2008 |
03-11-2012, 07:31 PM
so my boss is apparently the biggest scumbag ever and as such i no longer work for him.
he cheated on his wife, who he has a daughter of 3 with. He cheated on his wife with his best friend's girlfriend. he has his wife convinced that it's her fault and his best friend's fault, and the wife is apparently agreeing to work it out with him and letting him still remain friends with the girl he cheated on her with. (re: still fucking her) |
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Vongore The Chilean God of Lightning Posts: 3,371 Joined: Jul 2008 |
03-11-2012, 09:24 PM
(03-10-2012, 11:57 AM)Live-Free-Or-Pie link Wrote: [quote author=LT Crow link=topic=3709.msg240728#msg240728 date=1331396056] Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. [/quote] I second this, you could also take audio only if tape is too difficult [/quote] That's actually a really good plan. [/quote] Plans are underway and I've put a line out on reddit, please upboat if you reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/commen...er_soon_i/ [/quote] Words cannot describe the feeling of losing someone dear, but i'm happy for you it struck you when you were mature enough to comprehend the situation and be able to say Goodbye. Also, i third those. Good luck man. You know i'll always be up for a chat if you need any. |
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TOH BRB, Posting Posts: 634 Joined: Jul 2010 |
03-11-2012, 09:59 PM
(03-11-2012, 09:24 PM)Vongore link Wrote: [quote author=Live-Free-Or-Pie link=topic=3709.msg240730#msg240730 date=1331398676] Video record it. You should also have questions that you will want to know the answers to (e.g., tell us about your parents, your grandparents, most trouble you got into as a child, etc.). Ask the questions documentary style, and video it so the next generation can actually know your father. also, my thoughts go out to you at this difficult time. [/quote] I second this, you could also take audio only if tape is too difficult [/quote] That's actually a really good plan. [/quote] Plans are underway and I've put a line out on reddit, please upboat if you reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/commen...er_soon_i/ [/quote] Words cannot describe the feeling of losing someone dear, but i'm happy for you it struck you when you were mature enough to comprehend the situation and be able to say Goodbye. Also, i third those. Good luck man. You know i'll always be up for a chat if you need any. [/quote] Agreed on being able to say goodbye. Not everyone gets that opportunity, glad to see you're trying to make the most of it while you can...praying good things for you and your family. |
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copulatingduck Following in Gordon's Footsteps Posts: 7,518 Joined: Apr 2008 |
03-13-2012, 02:59 AM
Apparently telling the girl that wants to get a place together "Look, I know we're awesome together, but I need some space for a little while and need to put some of this on hold" because you disappear for a few weeks to help sort out a dead family member's estate is the dating equivalent of hitting the eject button.
Ohwell. I think being gay would be a lot easier sometimes Ripped like paper raped with ease hey scrub nerd pyros suck on these |
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Versus My fursona is a blops attack dog Posts: 10,103 Joined: Mar 2008 |
03-13-2012, 04:30 AM
you could have said yes to the bald mexican guy then
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at0m Official Con Soccer Mom Posts: 7,800 Joined: Jun 2008 |
03-13-2012, 06:50 AM
(03-13-2012, 02:59 AM)Duck link Wrote: Apparently telling the girl that wants to get a place together "Look, I know we're awesome together, but I need some space for a little while and need to put some of this on hold" because you disappear for a few weeks to help sort out a dead family member's estate is the dating equivalent of hitting the eject button.Did you tell her the reason was for said dead family member's estate? I had that happen to me last year, but it was in a much, much earlier stage. "If you want to be a Double E, bend over and grab your knees...." "Atom is Sexy!" <-- Donate your own pic to the cause! Victory needs no explanation. Defeat allows none. -Sun Tzu |
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