Let me paint a scenario for you (not one that verbatim happened) and you guys tell me if this feels familiar:
You're chatting with an acquaintance, someone you exchange pleasantries with but aren't close friends with (at least, not close enough that you can insult them in jest). They bring up something to which you give a fairly automatic response, but then, 5 hours later, you realize with dreadful clarity that the comment could have come across as really, really rude. (ex. "I'm going to try to improve my weight/grades/attractiveness" "That's good!" [accidentally implying/concurring that the person is fat/dumb/ugly]).
It's funny how that works--the person probably didn't even process it that way but the power of the faux pas is enough to derail me from whatever else I'm supposed to be doing right now. Lol. I'm just typing this out now with the hopes that expressing it will help me deal with the crushing awkwardness long enough to handle my other obligations.
EDIT: it's not working jesus christ is there an anti-neuroticism pill
(02-02-2014, 11:19 PM)Eightball link Wrote: [ -> ]Let me paint a scenario for you (not one that verbatim happened) and you guys tell me if this feels familiar:
You're chatting with an acquaintance, someone you exchange pleasantries with but aren't close friends with (at least, not close enough that you can insult them in jest). They bring up something to which you give a fairly automatic response, but then, 5 hours later, you realize with dreadful clarity that the comment could have come across as really, really rude. (ex. "I'm going to try to improve my weight/grades/attractiveness" "That's good!" [accidentally implying/concurring that the person is fat/dumb/ugly]).
It's funny how that works--the person probably didn't even process it that way but the power of the faux pas is enough to derail me from whatever else I'm supposed to be doing right now. Lol. I'm just typing this out now with the hopes that expressing it will help me deal with the crushing awkwardness long enough to handle my other obligations.
EDIT: it's not working jesus christ is there an anti-neuroticism pill
I've probably spent a good 40% of my life obsessing over shit like that.
(02-02-2014, 11:19 PM)Eightball link Wrote: [ -> ]Let me paint a scenario for you (not one that verbatim happened) and you guys tell me if this feels familiar:
You're chatting with an acquaintance, someone you exchange pleasantries with but aren't close friends with (at least, not close enough that you can insult them in jest). They bring up something to which you give a fairly automatic response, but then, 5 hours later, you realize with dreadful clarity that the comment could have come across as really, really rude. (ex. "I'm going to try to improve my weight/grades/attractiveness" "That's good!" [accidentally implying/concurring that the person is fat/dumb/ugly]).
It's funny how that works--the person probably didn't even process it that way but the power of the faux pas is enough to derail me from whatever else I'm supposed to be doing right now. Lol. I'm just typing this out now with the hopes that expressing it will help me deal with the crushing awkwardness long enough to handle my other obligations.
EDIT: it's not working jesus christ is there an anti-neuroticism pill
Its more complimenting them on the effort they are about to put into something than a conformation of being terrible at something, in my opinion at least.
(02-02-2014, 11:19 PM)Eightball link Wrote: [ -> ]Let me paint a scenario for you (not one that verbatim happened) and you guys tell me if this feels familiar:
You're chatting with an acquaintance, someone you exchange pleasantries with but aren't close friends with (at least, not close enough that you can insult them in jest). They bring up something to which you give a fairly automatic response, but then, 5 hours later, you realize with dreadful clarity that the comment could have come across as really, really rude. (ex. "I'm going to try to improve my weight/grades/attractiveness" "That's good!" [accidentally implying/concurring that the person is fat/dumb/ugly]).
It's funny how that works--the person probably didn't even process it that way but the power of the faux pas is enough to derail me from whatever else I'm supposed to be doing right now. Lol. I'm just typing this out now with the hopes that expressing it will help me deal with the crushing awkwardness long enough to handle my other obligations.
EDIT: it's not working jesus christ is there an anti-neuroticism pill
I'm trying to come to terms with something similar, but maybe worse than what you described. I had a terrible step mom that I was forced to grow up with (dad had custody). To deal with this I spent my entire childhood avoiding people (well not entire, I think there were some good years up to maybe Kindergarten). The downside is that I never really learned how to interact with people during my formative years. When I started wanting to interact with people I found that I could do so easily, but only really by copying other people's behaviors (I naturally have a high degree of empathy and can pick up on other people's emotions, etc., really easily). That has a limit. I'm constantly getting into trouble because I can't understand how something I say or do is taken in a context I don't understand to be something negative. I've also found that there are very few people I can get along with past the point where I've run out of things in my toolbox of what to say or do. It's just a strange time now and all of this is catching up with me because I realized that I can't really go any further with my law school friends of three years. They really aren't the kind of people I can be real with and I'm at the end of what I can fake.
I dunno, I'm trying to figure out how to get past this. I think I had a long time of going downhill then I rebounded by basically forgetting everything and faking a lot. Now I realize that I need to admit that I have some issues I need to work through.
(02-02-2014, 11:19 PM)Eightball link Wrote: [ -> ]Let me paint a scenario for you (not one that verbatim happened) and you guys tell me if this feels familiar:
You're chatting with an acquaintance, someone you exchange pleasantries with but aren't close friends with (at least, not close enough that you can insult them in jest). They bring up something to which you give a fairly automatic response, but then, 5 hours later, you realize with dreadful clarity that the comment could have come across as really, really rude. (ex. "I'm going to try to improve my weight/grades/attractiveness" "That's good!" [accidentally implying/concurring that the person is fat/dumb/ugly]).
It's funny how that works--the person probably didn't even process it that way but the power of the faux pas is enough to derail me from whatever else I'm supposed to be doing right now. Lol. I'm just typing this out now with the hopes that expressing it will help me deal with the crushing awkwardness long enough to handle my other obligations.
EDIT: it's not working jesus christ is there an anti-neuroticism pill
Happens to me all the time. Sometimes it's worse for me when we don't talk for a while afterwards, but imo the best thing to do is to not let it get under your skin enough to affect you. You'll be fine after another conversation with your metaphorical friend.
Similar to Surf, I've been a recluse for large portions of my life, so I still have some difficulty with what is faux pas or not. Combined with my personality being a direct kind, I tend to say things without thinking about them. However, it doesn't really matter in the long run, since people usually care about who you are, not so much what you say.
TIL: even if you tell Facebook to not post your birthday, Facebook will still post your birthday.Â
(02-05-2014, 12:56 PM)CPT Crow link Wrote: [ -> ]TIL: even if you tell Facebook to not post your birthday, Facebook will still post your birthday.Â
Deactivate/Delete facebook, I did a month ago
(02-05-2014, 12:56 PM)CPT Crow link Wrote: [ -> ]TIL: even if you tell Facebook to not post your birthday, Facebook will still post your birthday.Â
happy birthday man whose birthday is right after mine
I'm feeling melancholy today.
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(02-05-2014, 01:15 PM)Caffeine link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=CPT Crow link=topic=2632.msg276066#msg276066 date=1391622961]
TIL: even if you tell Facebook to not post your birthday, Facebook will still post your birthday.Â
Deactivate/Delete facebook, I did
a month ago in november
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