(03-06-2014, 07:19 PM)zaneyard link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Didzo link=topic=2632.msg276789#msg276789 date=1394147961]
[quote author=zaneyard link=topic=2632.msg276783#msg276783 date=1394134709]
So I've been going through old pictures and messages and conversations I've had and holy shit it's crazy to see how much I've changed in a year or 2. Just over a year has passed and I've went from being a hungry skeleton to gaining about 15 pounds of lean mass and being leaner than I've ever been. I'm legitimately excited to see where I'm going to be next year, and when I graduate from school.
I thought this was going to be some introspective post about growing as a person emotionally and intellectually, but of course it's about growing swole with gainz. Oh well.
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well i have grown as a person, there's just less of a way for me to quantify that in a forum post.
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Teach me your ways. I don't work out because I'm equal parts lazy and terrified of being judged.
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
(03-07-2014, 04:05 AM)Karth link Wrote: [ -> ]Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
karth: knows when to hit it and quit it.
tough luck though im sure you'll one day find a woman who loves you for you opinions of movies as much as we love you for being a great punching bag
(03-06-2014, 11:53 PM)Eschatos link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=zaneyard link=topic=2632.msg276794#msg276794 date=1394151564]
[quote author=Didzo link=topic=2632.msg276789#msg276789 date=1394147961]
[quote author=zaneyard link=topic=2632.msg276783#msg276783 date=1394134709]
So I've been going through old pictures and messages and conversations I've had and holy shit it's crazy to see how much I've changed in a year or 2. Just over a year has passed and I've went from being a hungry skeleton to gaining about 15 pounds of lean mass and being leaner than I've ever been. I'm legitimately excited to see where I'm going to be next year, and when I graduate from school.
I thought this was going to be some introspective post about growing as a person emotionally and intellectually, but of course it's about growing swole with gainz. Oh well.
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well i have grown as a person, there's just less of a way for me to quantify that in a forum post.
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terrified of being judged.
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See the key is to just judge yourself all the time so you're used to it.
Wait, that's not healthy at all.
As far as judging goes, that's something I think you'll have to deal with. It's something that's going to happen to you the rest of your life, it's your job to filter out the people that don't matter. (Related: Was talking with a girl about the climbing wall; she said she didn't want to do it ever because people can stare at your ass. I asked her what makes that any different than every single day then?)
Seriously though, lifting is awesome. It makes you feel good, it makes you look good, and as a result everything else gets better. For the longest time it was the only progression I had in my life and it was my drive to keep getting up in the morning.
As far as motivation goes, I feel like learning to commit yourself to something and to have that self-control is more important than being motivated. Maybe it's different for me because I enjoy it, but maybe you will too. Who am I to tell you to do something you don't like if you end up disliking it?
If you really want to check it out, head on over to r/weightroom and read through the faq. I can help you out if you share your goals and 'ideals' but maybe you're not comfortable talking about that kind of thing 'publicly'. Hit me up on facebook messenger or on here or whatever. Maybe we can start a strength training thread on here if anyone else is interested.
(03-07-2014, 04:05 AM)Karth link Wrote: [ -> ]Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
(03-07-2014, 02:36 PM)Caffeine link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276803#msg276803 date=1394183153]
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
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If that's the case, I feel like I'd rather have a relationship than a fuck buddy at this point in my life.
(03-07-2014, 03:31 PM)Karth link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Caffeine link=topic=2632.msg276824#msg276824 date=1394220992]
[quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276803#msg276803 date=1394183153]
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
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If that's the case, I feel like I'd rather have a relationship than a fuck buddy at this point in my life.
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Yea you are pretty old.
Hey look more conversation in the longest thread
(03-07-2014, 04:49 PM)zaneyard link Wrote: [ -> ]LOL
oh, okay.
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(03-07-2014, 05:12 PM)at0m link Wrote: [ -> ]Hey look more conversation in the longest thread
[quote author=zaneyard link=topic=2632.msg276827#msg276827 date=1394228989]
LOL
oh, okay.
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This exchange should be at the top of every new page.
pressure washing my driveway is extremely satisfying
(03-07-2014, 03:31 PM)Karth link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Caffeine link=topic=2632.msg276824#msg276824 date=1394220992]
[quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276803#msg276803 date=1394183153]
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
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If that's the case, I feel like I'd rather have a relationship than a fuck buddy at this point in my life.
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Honestly there is zero wrong with that.
Not everyone is comfortable being just fuck buddies. Sometimes more is required, sometimes less, it's about how you feel.
(03-07-2014, 08:45 PM)Luinbariel link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276825#msg276825 date=1394224270]
[quote author=Caffeine link=topic=2632.msg276824#msg276824 date=1394220992]
[quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276803#msg276803 date=1394183153]
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
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If that's the case, I feel like I'd rather have a relationship than a fuck buddy at this point in my life.
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Honestly there is zero wrong with that.
Not everyone is comfortable being just fuck buddies. Sometimes more is required, sometimes less, it's about how you feel.
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Nothing to add except yes, no shame in wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. It's your own life Karth, do what makes yourself comfortable!
(03-07-2014, 09:54 PM)Käse link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Luinbariel link=topic=2632.msg276833#msg276833 date=1394243139]
[quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276825#msg276825 date=1394224270]
[quote author=Caffeine link=topic=2632.msg276824#msg276824 date=1394220992]
[quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276803#msg276803 date=1394183153]
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
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If that's the case, I feel like I'd rather have a relationship than a fuck buddy at this point in my life.
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Honestly there is zero wrong with that.
Not everyone is comfortable being just fuck buddies. Sometimes more is required, sometimes less, it's about how you feel.
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Nothing to add except yes, no shame in wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. It's your own life Karth, do what makes yourself comfortable!
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Karth, it's better that you're honest with yourself and know that you want a monogamous relationship. Despite what popular culture might have you believe, you shouldn't feel ashamed for wanting one. Trying to force yourself into a type of relationship you don't really want is ultimately unhealthy, even if the short-term result seems tempting. Also, other fish in the sea etc. etc.
(03-07-2014, 03:31 PM)Karth link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Caffeine link=topic=2632.msg276824#msg276824 date=1394220992]
[quote author=Karth link=topic=2632.msg276803#msg276803 date=1394183153]
Friend saw the girl I took on a date kissing another guy. Honestly, I'm not even that upset. I had my suspicions when she'd suddenly want sex out of nowhere and had no interest in pursuing a relationship. The last thing I want to be is "the guy she cheated with", so I think it's a good time to call it quits.
Id get more info first, if you never explicitly entered into an exclusive relationship she may just have multiple fuck buddies, I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I've been that guy, the sex was amazing
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If that's the case, I feel like I'd rather have a relationship than a fuck buddy at this point in my life.
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To clarify I don't mean either position is wrong or right, but rather than slink away because of something your friend says he saw, just find out more and then make the approperiate decision for whatever
you feel is right. If she comes out and says she is sleeping with other people and doesn't want to be exclusive then tell her to take a hike.
People are not possessions.
We like to say, my girlfriend, my husband, my wife, my lover.
If you view people as possessions, you will forever grapple with jealousy.
Surround yourself with people who are fun, and who make you happy.
If being with her makes you happy and you have fun, then roll with it.
If she does things that knowingly hurt you, and then doesn't fix them, then she is no longer making you happy.
(03-08-2014, 09:02 AM)rumbot link Wrote: [ -> ]People are not possessions.
We like to say, my girlfriend, my husband, my wife, my lover.
If you view people as possessions, you will forever grapple with jealousy.
Surround yourself with people who are fun, and who make you happy.
If being with her makes you happy and you have fun, then roll with it.
The thing is, I don't even know her well enough to make a deduction like that. I'd love to take her out on a another date and see what happens, but I can't get in contact with her half the time. After the first time I didn't even get a response from her for like 3 weeks. From my perspective, at least, she's only in this for the sex when
she wants it.
insert snide remark about feminism here