(06-28-2010, 05:53 PM)Surf314 link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Odin link=topic=3709.msg161092#msg161092 date=1277760689]
Blegh I guess I'll elaborate a little.
We've known each other for a while, and it certainly feels like the physical and emotional attraction is mutual. It feels like we have something, but I can't tell for sure if she feels it too. I just found myself wondering if we did have something, and if it could or should be more than it is. Foolishly I chose to imply that this might be true. I don't think this affected her positively.
You want her as a friend or a girlfriend? Because if you want her as a girlfriend you will keep chasing after her like a puppy and it will make her uncomfortable. If you want her as a friend than you need to make a big show of your platonicness. Right now you are in a bad place because you are in the awkward between zone. Nothing good will happen here. You need to man up and pick a side and push through with your choice one way or the other. But before you do you need to realize you can still lose her completely either way, once you are cool with this you need to figure out a way you can approach the issue and be confident and not at all needy. My suggestion is sort yourself out for a day first, or whatever time it takes to sort out your feelings. Do not be wishy washy about this.
My 2 cents from years of being awkward.
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Do what Surf says, and do it quick. Staying in the "between zone" too long could tear you and whatever prior relationship you had apart.
How long is too long? I mean a week wouldn't be too long (or too soon) would it assuming the two were friends to begin with?
(06-28-2010, 04:23 PM)Odin link Wrote: [ -> ]Only woman I've ever known myself to have a mutual connection with and a chance with and I think I might have said something last night that could have gone and ruined that.
Fuck me.
I thought she actually said "Fuck me"...
My bad
(06-28-2010, 04:31 PM)Odin link Wrote: [ -> ]Blegh I guess I'll elaborate a little.
We've known each other for a while, and it certainly feels like the physical and emotional attraction is mutual. It feels like we have something, but I can't tell for sure if she feels it too. I just found myself wondering if we did have something, and if it could or should be more than it is. Foolishly I chose to imply that this might be true. I don't think this affected her positively.
Don't overthink it. Hang out with some friends, play some video games, if you drink have a beer, and go for a run to clear your head.
And most of all, when you talk to her, be honest and straightforward. There is no need to gush with any feeling.
This man says it better:
Quote:"Much unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment and things left unsaid."
â Fyodor Dostoevsky
Edit:
Sounds like you don't need my adviceÂ
I did, I thought about it, realized dating would never work out, and just talked.
I was wrong btw, she wasn't put off, just surprised. She didn't want to talk to me after though because she didn't want to make me feel awkward, oops.
Resolved fine though, we're both glad nothing will change.
Good to hear ;D
Korjax, my advice to you is to get yourself right, get your self-confidence back, pick up a new hobby that you enjoy (rock climbing, yoga, running, tennis, etc.) and then when you think you can handle it ask him to join you doing whatever you picked. Then he gets to see you in a new way and you can reconnect as friends. Or it will be awkward and you will know it won't work out.
But I'm probably terribly unqualified for this kind of advice.
(06-28-2010, 10:02 PM)Gump link Wrote: [ -> ]NYAAAAA
Why is it that anime/furry chicks are either horrendously fugly, or incredibly hot?
(06-29-2010, 12:46 PM)Dtrain323i link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Gump link=topic=3709.msg161140#msg161140 date=1277780567]
NYAAAAA
Why is it that anime/furry chicks are either horrendously fugly, or incredibly hot?
[/quote]Because they're either social outcasts (the ugly ones), disillusioned with popular culture (the hot ones), or just like the attention (both). Also, plain chicks dressed up as furries look ugly, even if they wouldn't be unattractive in normal clothes.
Only a minute and 30 seconds and i had to take 2 breaks while watching that
the only part i enjoyed was when she flicked her off
(06-29-2010, 01:08 PM)at0m link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Dtrain323i link=topic=3709.msg161227#msg161227 date=1277833610]
[quote author=Gump link=topic=3709.msg161140#msg161140 date=1277780567]
NYAAAAA
Why is it that anime/furry chicks are either horrendously fugly, or incredibly hot?
[/quote]Because they're either social outcasts (the ugly ones), disillusioned with popular culture (the hot ones), or just like the attention (both). Also, plain chicks dressed up as furries look ugly, even if they wouldn't be unattractive in normal clothes.
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^ This
There were definitely a good deal of lookers at ACEN, take a nerdy girl over some vapid wasteland you'd meet at a bar anyday
(06-28-2010, 10:02 PM)Gump link Wrote: [ -> ]NYAAAAA
I'm having trouble working now....
=/
My mom had me scratch her back today, she said, and I quote
"Oh yeah, right there, god, yes, harder, harder"
I nearly threw upÂ
