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The key, good sir, is not to give a shit... At least, not at a superficial level.

By not giving a flying fuck about what the fucks around you think, you not only rid yourself of feeling crappy about yourself, but you also rid yourself of ridicule. Learn how to be able to hang out with yourself.

Sure, it has its problems, but it's worked for me. Hell, I'm weird and creepy down to the core and I'm balls deep in bitches and steaks and hats as I'm typing this.




Also, don't drink alone. I've heard from several sources that it's a bad idea.

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I still have karma up for trade. Willing to trade for metal, tags, hats, or negative karma.

(10-30-2010, 04:42 AM)Didzo link Wrote: [ -> ]Also, don't drink alone. I've heard from several sources that it's a bad idea.

That's because it _is_ a bad idea.

Karth couldn't be more on the spot about family, karma, and cool off sessions.

<3 N2O, what they all say about family and karma is true. And don't get down on yourself for thinking that you're the only one that starts conversations - most of us are like that. Unless you get yourself involved, noone will talk to you, and that's not something to get down on yourself about, it's just one of life's quirks. So please stay involved, both here and IRL with others.

This is coming from someone who was so depressed at one point, if I checked my email and there weren't any new emails, I thought everyone in the world hated me and I wanted to cry. I used to get excited when I got spam. That's just fucked up. I know how low the lows can be, and I decided I don't want to do that any more. You should too. <3

(10-28-2010, 01:05 PM)KorJax link Wrote: [ -> ]Pretty sure I'm terrible at getting to first base and having it be legit, un-awkward, and not rushed. Maybe I'm just not old and wise enough to be good dating material lol  :-\

do it rummy style and let it happen to you

NO2:
Some people have magnetic looks and others have to work at it. I'm a little goofy looking IRL and people hardly ever approach me. I see people all the time that others flock to and I used to get jealous, but usually it's just because they look good. But I've reached a point where I understand how to get around that and still make lots of friends. It really comes down to what Didzo said plus what it sounds like you already do. You have to be happy with yourself and project that confidence and aura of hey I'd like to be friends but if you don't like me I could give a fuck, your loss. Then just say hi to people, ask them questions, smile and wave at them, but then to prevent awkwardness assume that your contact ends there and let them continue it or not.

It takes a lot of practice, I used to be almost clinically shy. But I try and make the effort and it gets easier. When I buy a coffee I usually try and say something social and smile at them (busy day?), if I'm at a restaurant and the waiter doesn't look too busy I will usually ask them what is good and what they recommend, I wave to people I know and say bye to them as often as feasible. I sometimes even give people compliments randomly.

I told a guy I know he looked good in blue the other day. I only after realized how awkward that could have been (he went from wearing indie dark clothes to a bright blue I'm on a yacht outfit and I was curious about it, that was going to be my segue into asking him why the style change but I got sidetracked after, so yes it probably would have been weird if people didn't expect this of me at this point). Anyways we got a good laugh out of it and he thanked me for the compliment.

I mean it really comes down to practice, sometimes I just really can't understand how easy it is for me now compared to how it used to be. I've become friends or at least friendly with several people just because they waited on me. There is a guy that used to serve me coffee that still says hi to me if I run into him.

tl;dr - some of us have to make the effort and practice being social, but the effort pays off. Start with strangers, it takes more balls but in the end you will probably never see them again.

(10-30-2010, 04:07 AM)Nitrous Oxide link Wrote: [ -> ]Every time we hung out, it was always me who had to ask. What the hell am I doing wrong?

Sounds to me like you weren't doing anything wrong, and someone else was.

(10-28-2010, 01:05 PM)KorJax link Wrote: [ -> ]Pretty sure I'm terrible at getting to first base and having it be legit, un-awkward, and not rushed.

You either get the kiss or you don't. There is no "legit" ness about it, unless you're giving dudes roofies, which would be pretty un-legit. Do or do not, there is no try.

Here's a tip, you lose more points for NOT going for a kiss by the second date then getting your kiss brushed off or getting the cheek. Cuz the other guy is like "whats wrong with him, he hasn't even tried?" A brush off or the cheek does NOT mean NO. it means NOT YET.

if you get blown off the first date, and he agrees to a second, he's gonna be expecting you to go for the kiss again.

For Korjax and NO2: what if confidence is a scam?

For NO2 : how to handle insults

I don't think I can add anything on except what Rummy/Surf said, listen to those men

(10-30-2010, 09:59 AM)rumsfald link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=KorJax link=topic=3709.msg180786#msg180786 date=1288289118]
Pretty sure I'm terrible at getting to first base and having it be legit, un-awkward, and not rushed.

You either get the kiss or you don't. There is no "legit" ness about it, unless you're giving dudes roofies, which would be pretty un-legit. Do or do not, there is no try.

Here's a tip, you lose more points for NOT going for a kiss by the second date then getting your kiss brushed off or getting the cheek. Cuz the other guy is like "whats wrong with him, he hasn't even tried?" A brush off or the cheek does NOT mean NO. it means NOT YET.

if you get blown off the first date, and he agrees to a second, he's gonna be expecting you to go for the kiss again.

For Korjax and NO2: what if confidence is a scam?

For NO2 : how to handle insults


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Wise words, sir. I've always been brought up to not kiss until at least the third or fourth date, depending on how it went, but than again, Missouri can be backwards on occasion.

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(10-30-2010, 12:09 PM)at0m link Wrote: [ -> ]

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And that, gentlemen, is why the internet is and always will be the best media device.

(10-30-2010, 04:07 AM)Nitrous Oxide link Wrote: [ -> ]OK

I'll admit I was a tad bit drunk as fuck. But still, you guys own, the people I know IRL, not so much.

Sure karma's just a number, but it's a little disheartening when on average I have the most negative instants, more so than tardle.

But that's still nothing compared to rl. If I talk to people more, they think I'm weird or a creep or some shit. Even Funbucks, who was my best friend for as long as I can fucking remember, wouldn't even start conversations with me. Every time we hung out, it was always me who had to ask. What the hell am I doing wrong? If anyone cared enough to get to know me, they'd realize I'm just a normal guy, but no one gives a shit. Girls don't talk to me ever, guys just make fun of me (even my friends in high school who did nothing but play video games). I think I know a grand total of 3 or 4 people who talk to me and are actually friends with me, and only one of them hangs out with me on a regular basis. I just feel like such a fucking failure. Hell, the way I act on the internet is nothing what I am irl. I'm usually nice to everyone and as far as I can remember, I've never hated on anyone unless they've hated on me first. I just don't know anymore...  :'(

Keep those 3 or four people close man. A core group of a few friends is better than a large group of "friends."

(10-30-2010, 04:42 AM)Didzo link Wrote: [ -> ]Also, don't drink alone. I've heard from several sources that it's a bad idea.

I was drinking with my roommates (who enjoy making fun of me because I'm the youngest one).

And you guys genuinely own. Thanks.

I have to be back at work by 6 AM tomorrow, so I gotta leave by 5. I got off at 11, got home at 11:30. Fucen :|

I've worked 7 days a week for the last 3 weeks running. I worked 83 hours last week alone.

roommate making out with woman
i am about to try to sleep
goddamn

(11-01-2010, 01:49 AM)Ensign Epic link Wrote: [ -> ]roommate making out with woman
i am about to try to sleep
goddamn

lul

My roommate did this once, the girl was so drunk she puked all over his shit. 

(11-01-2010, 03:30 AM)Hobospartan link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Ensign Epic link=topic=3709.msg181408#msg181408 date=1288594185]
roommate making out with woman
i am about to try to sleep
goddamn

lul

My roommate did this once, the girl was so drunk she puked all over his shit.   
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ALSO for the doublepost- they... umm... were about to go further when the girl (who is nicer than roomie) said "can't do it without my shirt off." I was facing towards the wall so I wouldn't have to see but they kept me up for a good hour or so and they were actually pretty loud.

(11-01-2010, 07:33 AM)Ensign Epic link Wrote: [ -> ][quote author=Hobospartan link=topic=3709.msg181415#msg181415 date=1288600208]
[quote author=Ensign Epic link=topic=3709.msg181408#msg181408 date=1288594185]
roommate making out with woman
i am about to try to sleep
goddamn

lul

My roommate did this once, the girl was so drunk she puked all over his shit.   
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ALSO for the doublepost- they... umm... were about to go further when the girl (who is nicer than roomie) said "can't do it without my shirt off." I was facing towards the wall so I wouldn't have to see but they kept me up for a good hour or so and they were actually pretty loud.
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next time record with cellphone.


derp.

Toasted some troll bait directed at Nitrous, PM me if you want it as I did save it

I wasn't trying to troll, but if you want to go ahead and remove it, fine. It's your forum to moderate, not mine. It's stuff he needs to read/hear but either way, whatever.

That being said, I'm OK with trying to solve this, without using this forum as stomping grounds. Nitrous, if you want to be mature about this, without shouting (I'm emphasizing this for a reason), then we'll figure this out.